Mitera Collection

Explore the World of #MiteraMamas

To The Woman In Every Mom

Fixing The Daily Grind Of A Relationship Rut: 3 Tips For Reigniting The Sparks With Your Partner

Image via Pixabay

Image via Pixabay

No matter how strong your relationship is, there will be ups, downs, and times where it feels like something of a grind. Strong partnerships can survive the difficult or dull moments, but there are ways to deal with relationship issues that can lead to significant improvements for both parties.

Relationship ruts happen to almost every couple

Cosmopolitan points out that most relationships experience ruts at some point, and the partnership can start to feel like an obligation rather than an enhancement to your life. Women frequently romanticize what they think their ultimate love story will look like, and the reality typically does not live up to the fantasy. When things start to feel dull, some small tweaks can lead to big improvements.

After being in a relationship for a while, partners frequently start to feel comfortable to the point of becoming complacent. You may start to take one another for granted and it may seem as if significant relationship issues arise. It will take an effort from both partners to break out of this grind, but woman may want to take charge and initiate some ways to get the sparks flying again in their romance.

Shake things up to add a spark to your partnership

Romper suggests that planning a night away together can do wonders for livening up a relationship, or you can try out a new activity together. Find a sport that pairs can do, take dance lessons, or try out some cooking classes to help you reconnect. Real Simple shares that planning date nights and surprising one another with outings can have a big impact on rejuvenating a stale relationship too.

Image via Pixabay

Image via Pixabay

Of course, breaking out of a relationship rut that has started to feel like a daily grind is not all about what your partner is doing. Women may want to take a step back when they start to feel stuck and take stock of the situation. Mind Body Green suggests working with your partner to look at all areas of your lives and look for what is working and what isn't. Brainstorm how things could change for the better, prioritize the options, and commit to following through.

Don't forget self care and your overall well-being in relation to your partnership

Breaking out of a relationship rut is about more than just what is going on with your partner though. It is hard to give your best to your relationship if you aren't taking care of yourself. Women have a tendency to push aside the need for self care, but a focus on improving your own nutrition and overall health can have a big impact on the health of your relationship.

Image by Pixabay

Image by Pixabay

The University of Michigan's Campus Mind Works notes that diet and nutrition impact your stress response and mood, which go on to affect your overall wellness. If your diet is lacking in quality foods, but packed with comfort foods, you likely are not able to give your relationship your best. Establishing good habits can take time, but they can have a significant impact on improving your well-being. As you feel stronger yourself, you will likely feel more motivated to work with your partner on breaking out of the daily grind of a stagnant relationship.

Lasting, solid relationships have their highs and lows and it takes a dedicated couple to push through the tough patches and put a spark back into the romance. It can help to plan special date nights or activities together, and taking some time to focus on individual self care can have a big impact as well. When your overall well-being is in a good place with solid nutrition and overall health, you will be better able to work with your partner to strengthen your relationship.


Ms. Merrill is a retired nurse, who aims to provide tips on finding the right medical care, health insurance, etc. Find her at

Do you find this blog post useful?